103: Self Doubt as a Graduate Nurse - Grad Success Series
Self Doubt as a Graduate Nurse - Grad Success Series
Self-doubt is a self-created emotion.
Self-doubt comes from our thoughts about ourselves, which we have practiced believing more than we have practiced positive affirmations about ourselves. External factors such as grades, job rejections, or negative feedback from others do not create self-doubt for us, as they are outside of our control.
Our thoughts generate our feelings, and the self-doubt we feel stems from our negative thoughts about ourselves. We have power over ourselves and our thoughts, and I encourage you to practice positive affirmations to combat self-doubt.
Remember, others cannot create how we feel, and it is up to us to take charge of our thoughts and emotions.
Key takeaways:
00:54 What is self-doubt?
02:40 We have power over ourselves and our thoughts.
03:46 Our thoughts generate our feelings, including self-doubt.
07:07 External factors do not create self-doubt
09:36 Conclusion and the importance of understanding the role of our thoughts in generating self-doubt.
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Self-doubt is an emotion that is generated from your thoughts and the thoughts that you are thinking about the thing that is happening external to you. That thing external to you, never has any control over you ever. Unless you let it
Hello and welcome back to the Graduate Nurse Success Series. Today we are talking about self-doubt. As a graduate nurse, I'm talking about this today because it comes up so much, and in the next 10 minutes I want to give you an idea of why you're experiencing self-doubt and what you can do about it. So doubt in itself, there's gonna be lots of self, self doubt.
Has the word self in it. ? So I just want to raise that to your attention. I want you to see that when anything has the word self in it, it's about you, it's about the individual, and it's generated usually through the self, okay? So self doubt is not something that's generated by things like external to us. The things in the external world, like your ANSAT scores, your gpa, all of these things cannot possibly create self-doubt. for you Some of you're like confused. Those things cannot generate self-doubt for you because self-doubt is self created. So when we think about our G P A, our grad programs, getting a rejection letter, you know, applying and not hearing back from Im position.
Here's what happens for you internally, and I know cause it happens to me. Because if you're a human, it happens to you. If there's any aliens listening, this doesn't apply. When we have something happen and we go out and we apply for our grants, or we apply for an i n job, or we get an onset back, or we've got a preceptor that maybe doesn't see our amazingness right, and they don't give us the support that we actually truly deserve.
For X, Y, and Z reasons. When those things happen in the world, they are external to us. We have really no control over them. We can try and control them, but I don't know about you, but if I ever try and control my partner and get 'em to do all the things, it doesn't happen. Okay? So just remember that we cannot get other people to do things for us.
It's just impossible. It doesn't work. Keep trying if you want to, but it doesn't work when we think. That being the case in their external trust, and we have no power over it. We think about, well, what do we have power over? And the thing that we have power over, my friend and we will always do is ourself, we have power over you.
Your beautiful humanness, all of the things. That's what we have power over. So when we think of it through this lens, I want you to think about self doubt. It's just a collection of thoughts that you have about yourself, thoughts that you've practiced, believing Many more times than you've practiced, believing, impairing thoughts.
So you've practiced believing I'm not good enough, I'm not capable, I'm not smart enough, I'm not articulate enough, more than you have practiced. I'm amazing. I'm great. I am confident. I am more than capable. I can communicate. So when we look at it through this lens, I'm sure some of you're like clicking.
You're like, yeah, actually for the last 20 years I've ran those stories. And some of you'll be like, Hmm, I still don't know what you're talking about. The thoughts that we tell ourselves that we repeat over and over and over again is what generates self doubt for us. All the things external to us do not, okay.
So when we tell ourselves we're not good, enough We experience an emotion, we have a, an experience in our body of an emotion cause our thoughts generate our feelings. You with me? So when we think I'm not good enough, we feel doubtful. We feel self-doubt. And when we feel doubtful, we take some action or we take some inaction,
so we do some shit. So either we go out into the world and we're feeling self-doubt and we're thinking, I'm not good enough, and maybe we don't apply for that job, right? Maybe we overthink, maybe we beat ourselves up. Maybe we don't allow ourselves. To be good enough in that process. Can you see where I'm going with this?
So what I want you to see is we think the external world creates self-doubt for us. We think the preceptor giving us bad feedback creates self doubt, but it doesn't. Self-doubt comes from your thinking. Why? Because it has the word self in it and, only you and only your thoughts can create emotion in your body.
We've been lied to. Other people cannot create how you feel. Think about it. It's actually impossible. Other people are external to us. They're a thing out in the world. They say something, we have a thought about it, and then we feel something. How dare you say that about me? I feel disappointed isn't him.
Right? They don't say something and I immediately feel something. I have a thought about it. There's an intellectual process that is between them saying something and me feeling something. What we believe, or we've been taught, or we've been conditioned to believe through society in life is that people say something and it hurts my feelings.
It only hurts our feelings if we allow and give away our. power In that moment, if we allow them to consume our thoughts, if we believe what they believe to be true about us, okay? That's an option. That is a choice. You don't have to believe that you did not do good on this placement. Especially if your preceptor has only worked with you for three days out of the four weeks.
You're all feeling me. I know you're all not agreeing. This happens, but what? What do we do? We sit there and we go, he must be right. I'm not good enough. I mean, even though I know he was only there for three days and he sat in the tea room and didn't even help. I must not be good enough. I'm not capable. I can't do this.
Why? Because our human brain loves negativity. It sucks. I know, right? it loves negativity and being positive and conscious and empowering and all of the things is hard. It's intentional. It's not safe. Cause our brain thinks that it's better to just play safe in a negative pit of misery, with these negative thoughts and that we just soak up and absorb everybody's thoughts about us and we take them on as our own.
I want to give you back the power today to see that in any situation in your nursing career, graduate, a I n student nurse unit manager, director of nursing, hospital, ceo. No one. Has the power to make you feel anything. Self-doubt is self-created through the thoughts that you choose to think about the external thing that is happening.
Let me say that again. Hopefully I can repeat it. Self-doubt is an emotion that is generated from your thoughts and the thoughts that you are thinking about the thing that is happening external to you. That thing external to you, never has any control over you ever. Unless you let it, okay, and that is the pivotal sentence.
Being short-staffed does not make you feel sad and upset and disappointed. Your thought about being short-staffed does. How can you apply this to your graduate nursing application process? Because you, my friend, are gonna experience self-doubt. Now, I'm not saying that self-doubt should be wiped out from your life.
It's impossible. I've tried. You cannot get rid of it. But what you can do is you can friends yourself doubt. You can see why it's there. You can acknowledge and accept it. You can understand it. You can be curious with it. You can invite all the self doubt. I love playing with myself, doubt. Oh, today you think that we're not gonna record this podcast cause we're not good enough.
Let me show you. Right? I want you to think about like if you had self-doubt sitting on the table in front of you and or sitting next to you and you could have a conversation with self doubt, he'd be like, why do you choose to tell me that I'm not good? And they'd be like, well, you're not. And you'd be like, I don't believe that to be true.
And you'd have this back and forth, right? It'd be like talking to a friend that's going through that shit spiral of emotion, that's just received some external thing, news feedback, lost their job, crashed the car, whatever's happened, and then they're like, oh my God, my life's falling apart. And all of this, you know what they're doing.
They're telling you lots of thoughts. They're creating their sadness and their. What would you do with that person? You might acknowledge it and be like, this is tough. This is really, really tough. But you're incredible to ever let anybody say that you're not. Whatever you give to other people, give to yourself.
If you freely give your patience, empowerment and confidence, and you're like, well, you can't give them confidence, cause that's a feeling, right? But if you give them those vibes and you talk to them in a way that creates confidence for them through their think. Why are you choosing not to give that to yourself?
Why are you indulging in self-doubt? It's optional. Self-doubt is created through your thinking. So if you don't wanna feel self-doubt, change your thinking and practice the new thoughts. Practice believing new things. Now some of you're gonna say, cause this happens all the time, but then I'm overconfident.
Isn't that like ego? You get to decide. What do you think? Do you think it's overconfidence or is it just self-confidence? It feels scary because we've never been confident before, cause we've spent too much time doubting ourselves. So of course your body's gonna resist it. Your brain's gonna think, oh God, look at you.
You're too cocky and confident now. But there is a difference between confidence and self-confidence. Self-confidence is I have my own back. I'm willing to experience self doubt and go all in on. I am not gonna let self doubt hold me back. I trust myself regardless of the outcome. cause what some of you will do is you'll do all of this work and you'll be like, oh, I can do this.
I'm capable. And you'll create empowerment for yourself or you'll feel proud or motivated or driven, and then you won't get the result that you want and then you'll go back on yourself and you'll be like, that's what I get for believing in. Do not do that to yourself. Self-confidence is going, you know what?
It didn't work out this time. What can I do differently? Master this skill and you will build yourself a sustainable one. You'll get a grad application and job two, you'll build yourself a sustainable nursing career. Self doubt is optional, my friends, and it's created through your thinking. I would love to hear your thoughts, comments, questions, queries.
Send me a message on Instagram at high performance nursing and let me. Whether you're ready to accept self doubt as part of your life and to consciously work through it because life on the other side of accepting self doubt and normalizing that it's always gonna be there is incredible, and you should come to the party.
I'll see you next week's episode.
